The difference between a genuine apology and a non-apology.

A non-apology goes like this:

  1. Gaslight: “I'm sorry you feel that way.”
  2. Explain: “There were (this, this and this) reasons why I did it.”
  3. Poke: “And anyway, look at YOU!”

A genuine apology goes like this:

  1. Acknowledge what you did: “I did this thing.” (Describe it as accurately as you can)
  2. Express remorse: “I'm sorry I did that.”
  3. Learn and change!

Voilà!

Sigh. Why did it take me 50 years to figure this out?

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