Post by @nek@hear-me.social

2026-10-24 21:31 UTC

She did a worse job than usual concealing her contempt. Almost directly called me pathetic and stupid. Hasn't given those remarks another thought since then, probably. I can't say, 'That's hurtful. Please stop that.' The tirades always amplify and accelerate when I try that, with a flurry of accusations, to which any reaction I have, at all, is vehemence, and demands that I seek help for it, elsewhere. Have to disengage from that, you bet. But that's just as hard as taking it. Hostages like me are fscked. Sorry #TMI but maybe the experience will sound usefully, actionably familiar to another person. My skin has gotten just slightly thicker, necessarily.

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@dnkboston@apobangpo.space 2026-10-24 21:33

@nek@hear-me.social I'm sorry. You sound like you're dealing with a narcissistic agent of chaos. Unfortunately, there's no managing them for more than a few days--tops. The only peace is getting away from them, which is not always possible.

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@gabbywheels@toad.social 2026-10-24 21:42

@nek@hear-me.social The end of this dance is indifference, not hate or resentment. You have to respect someone's values and actions to really care about the venom they spew your way. Once you realize that respect is not a given, the keys to your freedom are waiting. "She isn't like me. She doesn't share my insights or empathy. She cannot see or feel the way that I feel. She is different and yes, according to MY values that makes her less than. Her actions do not deserve my respect."

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